This is the first in a series of drawings that follow the “Know-Free-Be” process from my book. Without trying to sound all Rah-Rah here, my goal is to inspire a dialogue around the dinner table about making the second half of our lives breathtaking, amazing, and as John Keating tells us in the Dead Poets Society, extraordinary. I don’t think it’s that hard but it does require deliberateness, an open mind to the possibilities, and the spunk to stand up to the forces of mediocrity. So, if you’re game, let’s get started:
This drawing is about losing our love for life itself. For falling into the trap of living the cultural success game and allowing other people to chart your course. Something has changed, but you dare not explore. You wake up one day and realize you’ve lost the ability to feel, to enjoy, to create. You decide to settle and fake it except for an occasional talk with your best friend.
In the quote below, Swiss psychoanalyst Carl Jung points out that things will change as we move into the afternoon of our lives:
“Wholly unprepared, we embark upon the second half of life… we take the step into the afternoon of life; worse still we take this step with the false assumption that our truths and ideals will serve as before.
But we cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning - for what was great in the morning will be little at evening, and what in the morning was true will at evening have become a lie.”
Dr. Wayne Dyer also writes about the afternoon of one’s life and how a shift will occur: “Such a shift eliminates our feelings of separateness, illuminates our spiritual connectedness, and involves moving from the ego-directed morning into the afternoon of life where everything is primarily influenced by purpose.”
When we find life has become difficult, not enjoyable, or boring then something is wrong. I call it life outside our “sweet spot.” This can happen due to a change in our environment or a change in us. Most of the time, it’s a little of both. The first step on this journey is figuring out who we are today, and that, my friend, may prove to be the hardest thing we will do.
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom” ~ Aristotle