It’s BAD to be pushy, shy, loud, tattooed, outspoken, flirty, arrogant, lazy, a suck-up and opinionated.
It’s GOOD to be demure, sweet, cooperative, polite, well-read, connected and witty.
Nothing is really good and nothing is really bad, we just decide it is. Then, once we give it a label, we’ve sealed the deal forever. From then on, anyone we meet with “good” attributes is good, and, even more dangerously, everyone we meet with “bad” attributes is now, forever and unchangeably, bad in our eyes.
More importantly, we allow the labels given to us by others, change us from who we want to be.
Labels alter the outcome. Labels cover up. Labels are rarely accurate.
No labels, just you.