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Our desire to be accepted socially is so strong; we often masquerade who we are.  Concealing our true identity, feelings, and thoughts are a way of life in our culture.  We have masks for church, the office, the family, and even our friends.  

Gays have a “straight” mask, drinkers have a “teetotaler” mask, liberals have a “conservative” mask, atheists have a “believer’s” mask, clinically depressed have a “life is great” mask, the I hate going to mother-n-law’s house for Christmas every year crowd has a “Deck the halls with a smile” mask, the I’m tired of going to college football games with their spouse group have “cheerleader” masks, and one of my favorite are the people driving to work every morning with a frown and quickly putting that “I love my job” mask on just moments before walking in the door.

And the list goes on and on…………

Lie and be accepted or be yourself and risk rejection.  Tough Choice.  Protect your dignity and rip that mask off today.

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind – Dr. Seuss.


And they still loved her....


This is a drawing about Judy, a woman I met in the early nineties while doing a consulting job in the Northeast.  For almost twenty years, she had hidden the fact that she was a lesbian.  She was convinced the people she worked with would not be able to handle it and her relationships would sour.

Then one day, she declared the truth to the world.  The sun came up the next day, the Earth didn’t stop spinning, and Judy is still having lunch with her co-workers.

It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are not.

~ Andre Gilde